Dear J,
I recently watched the teaser of a film starring Ravi Mohan. It was like a story of my life. I was stuck in a toxic relationship called ‘marriage.’ I lived independently until the age of 29. My wife could not understand that I have thoughts and feelings of my own.
She thinks that my entire life belongs to her alone. That is what she believes marriage life is. She thinks that I should not do or think anything on my own, and it is a betrayal to her. She tells me everything she does in great detail. She wants me to hear it all and remember everything. She said that she does this because she and I became one through marriage.
I have a habit of serious reading. But she says I should not read. I watch English films, and she opposes that I should not watch them. I listen to English pop music. She says it should not fall on my ears. Because she does not like all of these. I should enjoy the things that she and I enjoy together. She only likes old TV serials, YouTube cooking videos, and small comedies. According to her, I have to watch only that, and it is real love.
I think she has enslaved my soul. It has only been two years now. But I have become a little dull and prosaic already. I am afraid that I will become like stone and dirt slowly. I saw your video. That is why I am writing this.
A
Dear A,
What can I say? It is shocking. I think that this kind of slavery is a big problem in women’s lives. It is shocking that men have to be like this.
I will say only one thing. There is only one meaning to human life. To keep moving forward spiritually and intellectually. Freedom for that progress is the basis for any life. Life without progress is nothing other than continuing as an incorruptible corpse.
Jeyamohan
